Safety measures for your wedding night

Your wedding night is the most anticipated night since you get engaged. You dream to making love with your fiancé, but this is the right time to turn your fantasy into reality. Your wedding or first night is perhaps the most exciting time of your lives! Expectations run high and they want it be the best time that they will ever have. Sex has highest priority during this time. Albeit, this is the most romantic and memorable night but it may land you in soup without taking safety measures. Here expert gives you some formal tips on common issues related to your first wedding night.

Problem: Fear of performance

Generally, there is a notion that every bride and every groom has the most intimate and wonderful sex of their lives on their first night. But in reality, it is an intimate moment and an opportunity. The boys are scared of performance whether they will satisfy their brides physically and emotionally or not, whereas the brides think of if they would be able to fulfill their grooms’ desire. With this myth how will they be able to lead a healthy conjugal life?  According to Dr. Vasanta Patre (Marriage counselor, Delhi), both bride and groom should come up with effective solution on this issue.

For groom: Forget the sensuous scenes of movies. Don’t try to be cozy with your partner on first attempt. Try to understand their feeling and emotions. Trust is very much important which you have to develop in her heart. Make your bride comfortable with your light and casual talks.

For bride: Nobody, who is emotional, wants to do anything without her wives’ permission. Don’t think that your husband will take your shyness and hesitation otherwise. So try to be little spontaneous.

Problem: Contraceptive ideas

It is difficult to discuss contraceptive measures amidst hustle and bustle of preparations for marriage ceremony. It becomes more difficult because bride-grooms are unable to share intimate chemistry in the beginning of their relationship. According to Dr. Atul Goswami (Fortis Hospital), both bride and groom should be mentally prepared for family planning.

For groom: Do not expect that your newly wedded wife will discuss with you on contraceptive ideas. In fact, contraceptive measure depends upon grooms, particularly in your initial wedding days. Try to know the ideas about contraception from your partner. If she doesn’t want to conceive immediately post marriage, try to use condom for few days.

For bride: Ask your partner regarding family planning. If you are hesitating to ask such kind of questions, try to mold it by asking about his future plans. This will be the best option to keep your thought before him.
Problem: How to ward off health issues

Often, couple gets to know about each other’s health issues post marriage. Hence, they start blaming each other. According to senior gynecologist Dr. Aasha Sharma (Rockland Hospital), both bride and groom should get done full health check up before marriage.

For groom: Consult your doctor regarding sexual problems and undergo proper test. If you had a premarital sexual relationship with anybody, HIV test is very necessary. If you have a frequent boozer or any kind of drug addiction you have, must consult a good doctor. Check your blood sugar and get done blood group taste.

For bride: Hormonal imbalance or period regarding issues should be sought out before your marriage. Take advice from an expert regarding contraception usage and its side-effects. Normally, UTI or honeymoon syrosis are common problem for majority of the newly married brides, so must consult a good doctor. Get checked your blood group. If your blood group has RH- and your partner’s blood group has RH+, it will create a problem in your pregnancy. If husband has RH- and wife has RH+, it will not create any kind of problem.

Get checked your hemoglobin level. Generally, Indian women are found anemic. This problem causes you tiredness, PID, vaginal discharge and many more infections. In fact, infections develop easily during intercourse.

Problem: How much you share?

This is also a common problem that how much you share with your partner in your initial days post marriage. Transparency is very important in ideal marriage. But according to such cases, your honesty lands you in soup sometime. Here Dr. Patre gives you some special tips on this:

For groom: Ask yourself why you are keen to know about your wife’s past? Don’t ask any kind of baseless questions. Despite her past, try to focus on happy future.

For bride: What if your husband is keen to share his past and want to know about your past stories. Don’t share anything related to your past, it will land you in trouble. Being skeptical about each other’s loyalty is a very dangerous thing in marital life. Therefore, it is advised to pursue the path which gives you the confidence necessary for leading a happy and tension free conjugal life.

Courtesy: Sakhi